If you’re a mom, you know that you want to take good care of your kids. You don’t want to have to worry about them as they grow up and make their way in the world — and you don’t want them to have to worry about you as you get older. Sure, parents and children are always going to be concerned about each other, but if you’re able to do things on your own it won’t be as much of a worry for you or for them. Don’t assume that your children know everything that you want as you get older, either. It’s important to tell them your wishes so they can help you out.

For example, whether you want to live in your own home or go to an assisted living facility is important to address. Most people don’t want to end up in nursing homes, but living in an assisted facility isn’t the same thing. It’s a much more private setting, where you get to live on your own but still get help when you need it. It can be a great way for you to feel safe and for your children to know that you’re being cared for.

Of course, you’ll want to make sure your children are still getting what they need as they get older, too. It can be hard, and most human relationships have interactions that aren’t always as perfect as you’d hope. Despite that, it’s worthwhile to keep in touch and keep moving forward. The bonds that parents and children make can be some of the strongest and most enduring that are out there. Even if times are difficult for you and your children, make sure you keep the lines of communication open.